Everyone has to make a number of major decisions throughout their lifetime. Making those decisions is never easy. Even when they are fun major decisions, there is still a lot to consider! What if you make the wrong choice? How is your life going to change? I recently had some major decisions to make regarding my work life. I had to decide if I wanted to continue working in the same position I have been in for the past four years, or change it up and try something new. I also had to decide if I wanted to continue working my second job, or give it up for some more balance in my life. So I had TWO major decisions to make within a matter of weeks! How did I make those decisions? Well I have a few pieces of advice for making major decisions that I used to help, which I will now share with you!
Make a Pro/Con List
I know, I know. This seems like such a cliche piece of advice. But there is a reason why so many people joke about those pro/con lists! They help! When you have a major decision make, sit down and start writing all of the good things and all of the bad things about the change you are considering. Is one list way longer than the other? If so, you might have already made your decision. If not, take some time to work on your list. Carry it around with you and add to it throughout the week. You'd be surprised when you will all of a sudden think of something to add to the list.
Talk It Out
So maybe your pro/con list isn't helping because the pros and the cons are equal. Maybe talking it out will help! Go get coffee with a trusted friend and talk through your list and the ideas in your head. I always find that when I talk it out, I naturally start to sway towards one side of the decision. It's also helpful to hear someone else talk about the decision, rather than your own voice in your head. Maybe your friend has some thoughts that you didn't even consider! If you're talking to the right person, he/she will only have your best interests at heart and genuinely want to help you with your decision.
Take Your Time
Sometimes you don't have much time to make your decision, but no matter what, take as much time as possible. People regret their decisions the most when they make them rashly. Once you think you have your decision made, at least sleep on it for a night before committing - longer if you can. I was once told that when you are thinking about getting a tattoo, make sure you like the idea for a year before getting it. I'm not suggesting take a year, but at least be happy with your decision for a couple of days before sticking with it.
Go With Your Gut
In the end, no matter what your pro/con list says, or how your conversation with a friend goes, you should always go with your gut. That doesn't mean the other tips are unnecessary, though. Usually, I know what my gut wants right when a decision is presented to me. Your very first thoughts are telling. However, if you're like me, you can't just go with your gut without having something to back it up. I always need logic on my side. That's why I make pro/con lists, talk to friends, and take my time. Sometimes logic has to catch up to my gut! Through the decision-making process, my gut is revealed to me, and then I can feel confident with my decision.
So what decisions did I come to about my work? I'm going with trying something new and finding more balance in my life, and I couldn't be more excited! Nothing beats that feeling when you make a major decision and feel confident about it. Next time you have a major decision to make, see if my advice helps you! Giving these ideas a try definitely couldn't hurt :)